| Location | Cleckheaton |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Not Listed? |
| Date of Birth | 10/06/2006 |
| Date of Death | 10/06/2006 |
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Jeffrey Amos Thorpe, born sleeping at 16weeks gestation due to Anencephaly.
our story.....
I’m Hazel (26) and I live with my fiance, Steven (27) we've been together since 1998 and have three gorgeous kids Olivia (7), Harrison (5) and Jessica (1), plus we have our angel Jeffrey.
After having Harrison we agreed we wouldn’t have anymore children, when Harrison was 16months old I had an inkling that I was pregnant but I suppose I was in denial lol anyway we did a test (april06) and it was positive, we were shocked at first but then it sank in and we were chuffed to bits. my first two were both born on December 20th but two years apart, I’d always thought it was just one of them things where I can only conceive once a year. so I just automatically thought our 3rd baby would be due and born on their birthdays too (accept 3 years apart not 2)
So I joined the dec06 board on babycentre, I “met” loads of lovely people and really enjoyed being pregnant again. We chose our names and just sat back and relaxed never ever thinking anything bad would happen.
And then we had our scan - I was 16 weeks pregnant and believed we were having a girl – the scanner woman scanned me quickly and then asked if I’d go sit in the waiting room and have a drink as my bladder wasn’t quite full enough. A little while later we were shown to a different scanning room and was told the other was now being used, I laid down and she put the probe on my tummy, printed off some pics and got up to show them a woman that was in the room that I hadn’t really noticed before, then she came back to us and sat down and quietly said "I’m so sorry to have to tell you that the baby's head hasn’t developed properly – baby doesn’t have any skull bone on top of the head" well I just cried, I didn’t know what to do, she kept talking to me but I couldn’t hear her, I asked for a picture and she gave me one.
They ushered us to a room and was told a doctor would come and explain things to us. We had the kids with us and I was just balling my eyes out, with Olivia stroking my arm telling me everything would be just fine. A doctor didn’t come, instead we were taken to a ward where a doctor eventually came and spoke to us, again I didn’t really hear what she said, I caught snippets of the conversation she was having with me – Anencephaly - imagine half a tennis ball - happens 1 in a 1000 times - more common in girls - incompatible with life - the only route is termination. I cried and cried. We knew we had to do what was right for our baby; we couldn’t allow her to suffer. I took a tablet and was told to return 2days later if nothing had happened.
Nothing had happened and so two days later the kids went to my sisters and we went back to the hospital and was given the gel to start me off, nothing happened so I had more and then went to sleep, I’d felt movement up until I went to sleep and it was as if the baby went to sleep with me. I woke up some time later and could "feel" something was happening, I rushed to the loo coz I didn’t know what else to do, I remember shouting at Steven to get someone - I wish I’d dragged him in the loo instead. Just as I crouched to sit on the loo I put my hand out just in case, I could feel something there and then suddenly my angel fell into my hand, it was sooooo strange I wasn’t sad, I was relieved and then his little sack burst and he was just curled up so perfect in my hand, I saw immediately that he was a boy - we been told to expect a girl - by this point a nurse was banging on the door (I’d locked it?!) she came in and seemed to jump back a mile, then she tried to take him away from me but I wouldn’t let her take him. I just kept saying "he's a boy, omg he's a boy, awe my sweet baby boy!!" I guess I was in shock, she (the nurse) kept saying “but it could be a girl” – err, der he has meat and two veg! He’s a boy!
We spent hours with him, we couldn’t believe how tiny and so very perfect he was. Even looking at his abnormality didn’t upset us, he had big eyes which we later found out was because there wasn’t any support there to allow them to grow normal. He was sucking his little finger and smiling, he was so gorgeous. We took photos of him and a nurse came and took him away for prints, he came back full of ink but we still couldn’t bear for him to go yet. my sisters and my dad came, but my dad wouldn’t look at Jeffrey, he was crying and I told him off, we wanted a happy day (god knows why) my sisters looked at him but I don’t think they knew quite knew what to think.
Finally we said they could take our angel away, that’s when I cried.
We’d agreed Jeffrey wasn’t going to have a post mortem and so we were free to make arrangements for the funeral.
We haven’t much money and couldn’t afford the quote of £2000- for a funeral & headstone, the only way we could afford to lay Jeffrey to rest was to have him in a multi-grave with 5 other angel babies, he would have his own plaque and we could have a graveside service. This is what we agreed on and so just 2weeks after I gave birth to our little angel he arrived in his tiny casket in his own big black car that drove us to the graveyard.
It turned out Jeffrey was due actually due November 25th, for his due date we set off some balloons for him and took him a special little posy of yellow roses. My sister sweetly remembered and bought him some gorgeous gifts too; it was a sweet peaceful day but really quite emotionally draining.
We decided to ttc as soon as we could after losing Jeffrey but was advised to start after taking a higher dose of folic acid for a full 3 months first, but coz I’d already been taking folic acid since April anyway we said we'd ttc straight away, it took us a full 6 months to finally get our beautiful BFP (big fat positive) it was just a week after Jeffrey’s due date. At 9 weeks we had a scan which showed baby was growing as she should be, it was such a relief. Jessica Mae was born on in August 2007 very healthy!
We go to visit Jeffrey every opertunity we can, we’ve taken him many gifts, he has angels, teddies and a lovely rose plant too. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of my brave little angel, he has taught me so very much and I just know he's looking over us all.
ANGEL XX
I cried and watched you pass away. Although l loved you dearly, l couldnt make you stay. A golden heart stopped beating, hard working hands at rest. God broke my heart to prove to me he only takes the best.
MISSING U LITTLE NEPHEW XX
Wish heaven had a phone so I could talk to you again.. I thought of you today, but that is nothing new, I thought about you yesterday, and days before that too. I think of you in silence. I often speak your name. All I have are memories and a picture in a frame. XXX
But Jesus called the children to him and said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it."
Xxxxx
HAPPY BIRTHDAY JEFFREY
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY
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Birthday Remembrance
Thinking of you on your birthday Jaffrey
But that is nothing new
For no day dawns and no day ends
Without a thought of you.
We cannot send a birthday card,
Your hand we cannot touch,
But God will take our greetings
To the one we love so much.
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love you take care big hugs to you
and your family that miss you ever
day more then words can say take
care bye for now love from me
Sylvie mommy of Samantha Belanger
Happy Birthday
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BIG HUGS JEOFFREY
⋱♰⋰ Angel Day ⋱♰⋰
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⋱♰⋰ Your Angel Day in Heaven ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Many tears will fall for you ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ You touched so many loving hearts ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ There’s so many missing you ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ As you now live in paradise ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Its Heaven up above stay ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Close to all your loved ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ ones For it’s you they ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ miss and love ⋱♰⋰
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⋱♰⋰ bigs hugs from me to you and your ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ family and friends that you miss you ever day ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ but in our hearts forever you will not be ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ forgoten you take care love from me ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Sylvie mommy of Samantha ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ Belanger hugs and XXXX ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ bye for now good ⋱♰⋰
⋱♰⋰ night ⋱♰⋰
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A Birthday In Heaven - Author Unknown
I heard you crying yesterday,
And felt your heart-sent love.
So I’m sending you this message
Now, from Heaven up above.
You’re wondering if I’ll celebrate
My birthday (way up here).
I know you’re missing me today
I feel your essence near.
God planned a special day for me,
He told me with a wink.
He’d ordered me a special cake
(It’s Angel food, I think).
Balloons will fill the streets for me,
They float up through the clouds.
And we have lots of friends up here
That make us laugh out loud.
There is a birthday carousel,
Jewelled horses ride the wind,
With music playing, oh so sweet…
The magic never ends.
I’ve made so many friends, you see
We laugh and play and sing.
We ride our bikes and play the fool
And sleep in Angel’s wings.
But we don’t blow out our candles here
Instead, they light the skies.
With love from your little Angel xxx
Special Angel Day - by Sam & Gordon Winson
We do not need a special day
To bring you to our minds.
The days we do not think of you
Are very hard to find.
Each morning when we awake
We know that you are gone.
And no one knows the heartache
As we try to carry on.
Our hearts still ache with sadness
And secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you
No one will ever know.
Our thoughts are always with you,
Your place no one can fill.
In life we loved you dearly;
In death we love you still.
There will always be a heartache,
And often a silent tear.
But always a precious memory
Of the days when you were here.
If tears would make a staircase,
And heartaches make a lane,
We'd walk the path to heaven
And bring you home again.
We hold you close within our hearts;
And there you will remain,
To walk with us throughout our lives
Until we meet again.
Our family chain is broken now,
And nothing seems the same,
But as God calls us one by one,
The chain will link again.
Just dropping by to say hello
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to a very special angel.
all my love always all my Love Jeffrey. xox
I\'m sorry!
I didnt know you then, but I know you now. I know the effect that Jeffrey had on your life. He sounds adorable. I am sorry you had to go through this, it's a horrible thing that I cant even imagine having happen. You are a very strong woman, and you deserve all the love in the world!!! xx
Still thinking of you
Hi Hazel - just saw a recent post on BC and noticed the website which led me here. Just thought I would add that it is great you keep in touch with us.
I continue to be touched by your little angel's story and think of you lots. I saw a statement on another signature that made me think of Jeffrey - 'he was just too damn special for earth...'
Big hugs and see you on BC soon
Jo (jowo3340)
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